• First, and foremost, consider the source hun. Remember kiss asses are those who have no confidence, and need reassurance from others to make themselves feel ontop of the world. They prance on their tippy toes when their boss says, "good job." You on the other hand already have the inner diva that knows how it's done, or you wouldn't be writing me. Of course, you need to go to your job with a positive attitude, and when in a toxic environment how can that be possible? Unleash the inner diva. Don't hold anything back, let them know how you feel, in a kind way, that's the T. If that doesn't work, then take it to the next level. I don't care who you are, but if you think you can step to me thinking you're someone who is big and bad, then you best believe you're going to get put back in check. I treat people with kindness, respect, and, of course, being the best I can to them. You, I or anyone isn't some peasant who need people walking all over our grand selves. Who do they think they are? Show them what you're made of dear! Work it! 

• I recommend reading some inspiring self-help books. With so many out there take the time to a bookstore and listen to your gut when you look through the shelves. Whichever ones speak to you, buy! Also, change the focus of your perspective. Try to make it a daily habit of writing qualities you love about yourself, no matter how hard you have to think. You, I, and many other people face these challenges on a daily basis, but when I took my focus onto the bigger picture my life changed. You need to find the happiness by searching. Never give up. Even if you have to try to do something you once did, but I recommend, start reading self-help books, and writing things you love about yourself, and life, but include the reason why you do! Sending you all the confidence you need to unleash that inner diva! Xo 

• Awe that is so sweet. And, by reading your question I can tell why she is in love with you. I can tell how sincere you are. I may be right, I may be wrong, but I feel in your past that you may have had a hard time in your childhood or teenage life that triggers those feelings. Let go, and embrace her, because you clearly are doing something right. She fell in love with you, and when you blossom she will only love you even more. The best advice I can give you is to open up to her. Don't be so afraid. She isn't going anywhere! Sending my best blessings to you! I know you'll be just fine.  

• Darling, that was so kind of you. Thank you. For me, I am not big on photoshoots, but do I enjoy them? Of course! Who doesn't! You have to let loose, and allow your talent to shine through. No matter what I do, I always try to tell my story. Doing so helps me do my thing. Look at classic photos and top models today practice some of those poses. When the time comes and you have your next shoot, girl you will unleash the diva! 

• Life is a journey. Especially achieving a goal you had thought about for so long will bring a mixture of excitement, fear, and blissfulness. You earned your spot. Remember, you worked your way to the top, and that is being a diva at her finest. Now, once you settle, you have to keep setting your goals and keep achieving new heights. Write a letter to yourself by giving thanks for this journey you have already embarked on. Kind of an acceptance speech. Don't think so hard, just let the words flow, and in that letter those words of encouragement will be there! Congratulations! Your diva defiantly has been unleashed!   

• You did nothing wrong. You're living your life! Bravo to you! I am sure it has to deal with your success and how they don't want to listen or feel happy for you because they're miserable. They may get annoyed with your Facebook updates, which I can't stand people who complain about people who update their statuses- it's your Facebook you can do whatever you want.  Friends come and they go, but the real ones stay. My closet friends have been with me through thick and thin. I lost some along way, and yes it may have hurt, but it was for the better. Those type of people add fuel to my fire. Allow them to do the same! Don't slow down and keep on going to your success.  

I hope you guys enjoyed this weeks Paul's advice on all things life. Those envious bullies are just your paparazzi trying to catch their next big story. Stand in the center and allow the love to overcome everything and you will soar! I will get the next post out soon! Love you all and thank you for reading!

Love,
Paul

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• I am glad you did reach out. This is something that takes time, growth and lessons. I talked to my first guy at the age of 11 and he was 16 via AOL chat. I knew what the media and a majority of people were saying at the time about who I am. Maybe not directly, but overall. Thankfully, I did have my family. So, of course your past plays a role. Since you got a late start give it time because I was a tease who wanted love but had no idea how to let love in. I wanted everything love had to offer but had nothing to show. I would feed people what they wanted to hear to gain the power in their hearts, and turn cold to push them away. When I first saw my boyfriend, I knew it and the day we met was like magic. I was 11 when I started to talk to guys, and I was 21 when I fell in love; 11 years it took. You have sometime to grow in that aspect of your life and when you find the one you'll see a difference within your heart. You'll see. Breathe because the universe will grant all your wishes just believe. 

• No. You are not wrong. People will judge you no matter what. My boyfriend is 8 years older than me. I know I repeated myself a few times with this, but I was 19 when I wanted him. I had people tell me he was too old, I kinda listened and he even told me back then that I was too naive to see it, but that quickly changed. He jokes sometimes by saying I have daddy issues. Now, I never talked to a guy with a huge age gap, but I always liked older guys; around the 10 year range was the most and I was 18, the guy was 29. If your out sleeping around with older guys just for the hell of it, then yes, you are wrong. If you're looking for a partnership then go for it. Spread your wings and fly away with the love of your life. 

• It will catch up with him. Sadly, for you the best thing you can do is move on. I was an actor and I did shows out in New York during my teenage years while summer was in session. I did use a different name. The director promised to take my career to the next level. I was giving the lead role in 3 out of the 4 productions I did. Plus, he was my acting coach. Now, this is the first I have ever opened up about this. I did include a piece of it in my poetry book, but the summer leading into college I was 18. I had my first run-through that May, he expected more from me as a return for his favors. He swore if I didn't give him what he wanted he would ruin my chances. This is someone who I confided with and trusted. I mean yeah he had me on diet to the point that I looked anorexic because he told me I was fat, besides the point I didn't follow through on his sexual demands and we got physical with each other a couple times in my dressing room. No one would speak of it. No one would believe me and I had to keep myself together because the show counted on me. I couldn't let the cast down. The best thing I did was leaving that life behind to start something new. I went on a spiritual journey. Found my true calling. Surrounded myself with amazing people and allowed them into my life instead of hiding it. Fell in love and most importantly I found myself.  I haven't talked much about that piece of my life. I consider it long gone. I may bring it up from time and time. My best friends didn't even know. Use this to your advantage and go down the road with a positive direction. Karma will catch up with that guy. It always does.

• I was there in your position before. I am clingy with love. I like to be the center of attention and I can be demanding. I have a heart of gold. I love like there is no tomorrow and I would die for the man I love...if that makes me crazy then so be it. I never once changed who I was for love. Love changed the men for me. Even though it hurt I was able to find my perfect guy. My boyfriend knows he is one lucky guy and I know I am as well. I'm crazy in love with him and he can handle that side of me. Took me sometime, but I kept on going. Keep your head held high and never change. Your prince is over there on the horizon, so go get him! 

• Thank you so much for saying that. I appreciate it. When you face a lot during a young age like I did you have no choice. You learn to fight back and stay happy, you figure out that people don't scare you and allow yourself to live life for you, if it's done in accordance with love. You clearly have some trauma inside your thoughts. Find something creative to release such burdens. Pretty soon you will be like me and say, nothing scares me anymore, but in order for that to happen you need to live a little bit. 

• Never give up. Those people are guiding you to your finish line because the more you stay away from them and keep chasing after your calling you'll see the real reason why you had to face them. You learn something about yourself you never thought was imaginable. After acting failed, I wanted to pursue singing, but it didn't happen and I heard somethings people said about me though. I just didn't listen because I knew what I wanted. You have to fail to win, lose everything to really understand freedom so you can gain. Keep the spark alive by following your bliss. 

• Let's play a multiple choice game...there is a salad next to a cupcake, what would Paul choose? Cupcake here I come. I have a major sweet tooth, and since being in my relationship I have gained a few extra pounds as well. IT is a lot to take in at first, and like yourself it is the happiest I have ever been. I use to go to the gym around seven days a week, but now I'm lucky if I find the mindset to go every 7 weeks. Every time I try the thought works my nerve, because I say who I am going for? Me? Or them? I recently started walking and watching what I am eating. Yes, we may have gained a few pounds but the worse of it is in our heads. If you are happy, embrace yourself because in reality when it is time for you to workout you will do it. Start by doing a tiny bit of walking for at least 15 minutes every other day and build yourself up. Even a little bit of movement will make you feel better. You live once: enjoy yourself and eat that cupcake. You earned it, and curves or no, walk your runway doing you. Don't listen to what anyone has to say.  
  

•  That would drive me insane. I wouldn't be able to bite my tongue, so I am applauding you. See bosses have a funny way of doing their job. They have hot and cold spots. When their hot spots are touched they can turn into vindictive people who are ruthless in every way. Bosses like yours think they are celebrities because they love to have their you know what kissed, so she probably has a lot of those, and by this question I can see you're not an ass kisser-either am I. Her reality is people only like her because they need too. The downfall is it puts a radar on yourself. You're an easy target. I am sure guidelines and rules are in place while you are on the floor, and being humans we tend to break them. Try talking to her, and if that doesn't work, what I would do is give her a piece of your mind. If she fires you, document everything and take her ass to court. You have just as much power as she does, if not, even more. You go to work and should not be feeling on edge all day it is so unhealthy for your mind. The higher you are the harder you will fall if you treat others with negative energy.  
  

• Been there, done that! I think at times it is hard for someone to admit that people are jealous of them. They're envious of you! They want what you have so instead of being happy for you they are stuck in their own pity of bitterness. They don't want to see you succeed, just because. Keep doing what you are doing, clearly it is working out for you. The best way to go out about this is looking for the good by writing down a list of your friends, how much they love and support you and you'll see how fast those other people fade. Keep proving them wrong by being the best you can. That's what I always do. 

• Their behavior is tired. It's time they put it rest. If you are a good person at heart, and are doing good things, you are who you are and can't be changed. AMEN! Good for you. Keep standing up for yourself by just being you. Turn your focus away from them, and instead of trying to fight them off just walk in a different direction. On the other side if they are trying to help you and you just don't want to hear it, open your ears it may help you-that's only if! Stay strong, stay proud and stay who you are if you are coming from a place in your heart. After so many years I learned to tune people out.  

• It is a great thing that you are so concerned with your friends well being. There is a sad part about trying to help people and that is they may, or may not take your advice, but don't stop giving it!  Also, don't keep repeating yourself. I'm the same way, it's like you mean what you said the first time and that is how it is. It's like why are you even telling me if your just going to keep letting it happen? Do something about it! I care about my friends and if they don't listen to me after a few times I just nod. Sometimes you just have to let go and allow them to learn it on their own. If they don't, they will eventually.  
  

1. I saw you featured on a fashion blog and you gave an interview about how you pick your style. I want some advice on how to pick the perfect clothes while I shop. It takes me hours and I honestly hate to shop, what do you suggest? 
   

• If it's expensive it fits...totally joking. I consider clothes like a doorway to your life. That being said be sure to pick what you love. Test the waters and try a few things out by being creative. When I walk into a store I JUST know that it is perfect for me. I do a quick glance and what catches my attention I head to pick it up. After, I do another walk around before I try it on. I usually walk out with one of the five items I pick and at times I put it away by asking myself do I really feel like this is it? It is a process to build your signature wardrobe and takes time. Start small, then work your way up! Don't be afraid to recycle your outfits by mixing them with other things. 

• Not all of them are bible huggers. They just have a way of passion that comes off mean and it shouldn't be directed to you, but you said your answer in the first few words, small. They are small minded individuals who keep their noses stuck in the bible without really allowing God into their lives. Notice how their answer is, "It's in the bible. It's in the bible." They live in fear. I mean no disrespect to their opinions. God hates no one, and remember he didn't write the bible. Do I believe in the bible? Someone of it, yes, until I was told being gay was a CHOICE. My Aunt is a Catechist in the Catholic Church and has been for the past 15 years who continues her education yearly. I discussed issues such as this with her-it is clearly false what they say about us. We won't being going to hell, God doesn't hate us and we are who we are because of him. I always knew I had an attraction to men. If you take the time to listen to God you will see for yourself that life is meant to be lived by being who you are. The best way to remove that negativity is by finding your own personal connection with God. I promise you that you will live a better fulfilling life by going on your own spiritual journey. Start by reading books on Gratitude. I highly recommend The Secret.    

• You have to awaken that inner diva! When the going gets tough, clearly you're in the wrong place and if at first you don't succeed complain loudly until they give it to you...again, I'm totally joking. (Sort of) I wrote something in my poetry book, "Rejection is simply redirection to the greatness awaiting you." It takes time because right now you are learning the value of gratitude because when you find that career you will feel so good about it that you will do everything you can to the best of your abilities to climb the ladder of success in that company. You are doing the best you can, just don't give up! You got this! 

• Let them run. They aren't brave enough to handle that freaky side you have within. I had my fair share of runways, people who kept coming back and then I finally found the one. I had one of them tell that the only reason why they ran was because they respected me. Hang in there because once you find your prince you will look back and laugh it off! You will also know. I knew Jon was mine at 19. It took us two years to actually meet, but once we did everything made sense. 

• I just knew. I have a very good intuition, so listen to your gut! It is that old saying, it just happens. Enjoy this feeling and run with it! Best wishes and much love! Excited for your new journey.