Self-worth isn’t served to you on a silver platter—you have to build it, darling, one fearless move at a time. Trust me, I’ve walked the tightrope between being underestimated and being ‘too much.’ Judged, ignored, dismissed, envied, loved, appreciated, supported—I’ve seen it all. But through it all, I’ve always known my worth, even when I struggled to embrace it. Every decision I’ve made, even the messy ones (and trust, some of them were a hot mess), led me to this moment: confident, unapologetic, and owning my life on my terms. You matter and you are deserving of everything life has to offer. This post is all about channeling that inner powerhouse, owning your narrative, and turning heads while doing it. When I made the decision to open up and put my life on display over a decade ago, my goal was empowerment. I’d always felt judged, misunderstood, and underestimated. Sharing my journey became an opportunity to refine, reinvent, and embrace who I truly am—on my terms. I was never ordinary—let’s get that straight (I was never that either). In high school, feeling out of place as many do in that era of life, I developed a mantra to help me cope. 'I’m the Kim K of PA (Pennsylvania).’ Kim Kardashian is one of my favorite celebrities if y’all didn’t know that by now. That line became such a major part of my inner-monologue back in 2008 when I watched Kim rise above the judgment, the gossip, and the endless opinions about who she should be or what she would become. She stayed true to herself—unapologetically. I saw myself in her resilience and her ability to make waves simply by existing. But here’s the key: perception is everything when it comes to self-worth. And the most important thing? Learning about yourself. It’s fine to be inspired by someone, but never compare. Your story, your sparkle, your essence? It’s yours alone. For way too long without realizing it, I let the world dictate my worth. I compared where I was—or let’s be real, where I wasn’t—to everyone else’s expectations. It was like living in a constant shadow of who I should be, and for a minute, I let that define my happiness. I even started exaggerating and fabricating situations (a bit on the delusional side) trying to cover up the embarrassment of feeling stuck because who wants to admit they’re not where they thought they'd be? Voices of judgment and opinions circled my everyday life. Add in drama that’s always lurking (because, of course, there’s always drama), and it’s no wonder I started questioning my worth. It was easy to think I wasn’t worthy of what my heart wanted. But I wasn’t having it. This is my show. The cameras came to see me, not any of them. I wasn’t about to stay lost, overwhelmed, and frankly, tired of being unheard. So, I did the work. I regrouped, took long breaks when needed, redefined my goals, reinvented myself (again and again, because why not?), and got back to what felt right for me--that too can change with time as it should because it comes with growing as a person. Did I fail? Duh. But I didn’t stay down. I kept pushing, kept evolving, because there’s no other option—the show must go on. And now? I trust myself—even when the process gets messy or seems to be going nowhere. I have faith in my higher power and that helps me out a lot as well. This journey? It’s still unfolding, but for the first time, I’m truly listening to myself—and that, darling, is where my power lies. Your power? It’s in your authentic self. We’re conditioned to fit molds, to keep up with the next person. But if you want to find who you truly are, sometimes you’ve got to ruffle some feathers, get off the track, and make bold decisions that go against everything you’ve been taught. What’s next? Protecting your peace—especially when you’re going against everything you’ve been told. Trust me, the noise gets deafening. And take it from me: don’t make the same mistake I did. I thought popping a Xanax would fix my flaws and quiet the chaos. Spoiler alert—it didn’t. Since I started documenting my experiences every word I wrote, every post I shared, every photo I posed for—they were all snapshots of who I was at that time, even if some of it was staged to hide how insecure and lost I truly was. It grabbed attention. People loved who I was becoming. For a while, I did too. But let’s be real—somewhere in the chaos, I lost myself. The noise got too loud, and I gave in. I became someone I barely recognized—chasing likes, feeding off any attention I could get, and clapping back at negativity just to prove a point. Behind the scenes? A whole circus. Fights, drama, real-life struggles—everything spiraled while I buried the one thing that mattered most: my peace. I let people who didn’t or ever will value me make me question my worth. And worse? I pushed away those who truly saw my value because I wasn’t aligned with my true self. My purpose got buried under the pressure to prove I belonged. But that era? Closed. Never again. I’ve learned my lesson, and trust me—it’s one I’ll never forget. Sure, some of the things I shared, wrote, and posted make me cringe. But delete it? Never. Why? Because I finally get it. No shame here. I’ve grown, evolved, and that’s what matters most. This is MY journey. I own every moment, every word—even the messy ones. I see now why I took the path I did, and I’m proud of every step. When I made the decision to open up and put my life on display over a decade ago, my goal was empowerment. I’d always felt judged, misunderstood, and underestimated. Sharing my journey became an opportunity to refine, reinvent, and embrace who I truly am—on my terms. I didn’t know what would happen, but I was excited, especially when people started noticing. Some responded with love, others with judgment, but both gave me a sense of validation. At the same time, I felt exposed because everything that inspired my goal was suddenly magnified. The irony? I was still figuring myself out while thinking I had it all together and that was my biggest downfall. My intent came from a place of self-care, but in the process, I was careless with myself. And yet, looking back now, even with the setbacks, the growth I’ve experienced is undeniable. Reflecting on the journey is its own reward because I realize now that I accomplished exactly what I set out to do—even if I didn’t fully understand the “how” at the time. Risks pay off when you trust yourself, even when others don’t. Being unapologetic and resilient in your goals? Non-negotiable. Resilience? It’s in my DNA. I’m the queen of comebacks so don't count me out...like ever. The bounce-back is always greater than the setback. Life isn’t about staying stuck—it’s meant to be lived. Your past doesn’t define your future, so if something no longer serves you, let it go. Rewrite your script, redefine who you want to be, and claim your worth. Your value? That’s yours to own. No one can take it from you. You’re the star of your life, so step into the spotlight and own it. Self-worth? It’s a journey, and YOU are the one writing the script. People will talk—let them. Drama will swirl, but it’s all part of the show you’re giving them, right? You’re the drama and the redemption, the villain and the hero, the heartbreaker and the heartbroken. That’s the beauty of it—you’re the main character, and it comes with the platform. You’re allowed to make mistakes, rise, fail, and succeed. Own it. Let your energy shine brighter than ever. Live unapologetically. Keep dazzling, making bold moves, learning from your mistakes, and staying fierce. Keep your faith. Keep that shine and be kind. This is YOUR script—so write it like the icon you are. You’re worth a happily-ever-after, and it’s yours to create. Why not make it legendary? - xo I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I loved creating it. Reconnecting with you all through my blog feels amazing, and I’ve truly missed it. Thank you for taking the time to read my words—it means the world to me. I would love to hear your thoughts and feedback over on social media—feel free to share your own story too. Let’s inspire each other. We all have something worth saying, and I can’t wait to hear what you have to say. Your voice matters! Be sure to follow more of my journey on the media!Comments are closed.
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