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Week 4: Overcoming & Identifying Envious People

9/9/2015

 
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I always knew I had something to give to this world and I would belong to it forever. - Paul Travis 
I've been told I'm fierce, and I can shut down any in the blink of an eye if I chose. I always knew what I wanted and made sure I would get it. In the wake of my ambitious force I came across many people staring at me with green eyes. Sending their negative energy, their hate and betrayal my way. Hidden beneath their forceful smile were such words as "How'd he do it over me?" "This can't be." "He's lying." As they kept speaking I stared into my mirror and the lights shined down capturing my laugh. I always knew I had something to give to this world and I would belong to it forever. There was time when I didn't understand aspects of people and their ways but that soon changed. This week I picked questions from fans regarding situations similar to my experiences and together we will help uncover, expose and conquer the envious people around you! 
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1. I've been getting ignored by people I once thought were my friends, and the typical people who did always seemed to ignore me in the first place. Friends have deleted me from Facebook and no longer respond to my messages. This all started to happen when things finally started to become great for me. Do you think it is something I did? 
  • You did nothing wrong. You're living your life! Bravo to you! I am sure it has to deal with your success and how they don't want to listen or feel happy for you because they're miserable. They may get annoyed with your Facebook updates, which I can't stand people who complain about people who update their statuses- it's your Facebook you can do whatever you want.  Friends come and they go, but the real ones stay. My closet friends have been with me through thick and thin. I lost some along way, and yes it may have hurt, but it was for the better. Those type of people add fuel to my fire. Allow them to do the same! Don't slow down and keep on going to your success.  

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2. It seems people around me never acknowledge what I do. It's as if I have to bring it up, and if I do someone brings out the worst possible thing, or act as if they know more than me. I wonder why they make my growing career invisible, and I push it off, but why? If you can help enlighten me.

• Don't take that personally sometimes people don't know how to react to certain types of success. When they jump the gun, they have a bit of envy because they can't find that confidence within them to go for it. When you talk about yourself, try to bring out the best in the other person by complimenting. Be sincere. And, don't allow anyone to ever derail you. Being a writer everyone who has the mindset of "job security" isn't on the same page of "dreamers." Is it their fault? No. It's the way society has shaped the vision of a job. If that person is envious of you then it is completely different. Some of my closest friends, and family didn't understand so I came up with a solution to help them understand it better. Get creative and if they really care they will listen and acknowledge what your passion is.


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3. Have you ever questioned if the biggest bully in your life is someone closest to you? I have someone in my life who really I thought was a great friend but the whole time she backstabbed me. Everything is going good and out of the blue she snaps! How do I handle this when the person is someone I can't escape? At least for the time being!

Sometimes it's those closest to you that really dig in the knife. That's the pain you need to shape into strength. I think everyone faced/faces a couple negative impacts regarding people closest to them. I have. What I did was learn to forgive and that forgiveness is what healed me. Don't allow her to be a friend anymore by keeping things casual. The further they are the less it will hurt.


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4. Why is it that bullies flock together? Once their so called leader says go they all jump to his or her command. I need to know how to deal with them. I can't stand staring at their faces. But they continue to watch me and everything I do.

Smile. They are your paparazzi. You made it and now you're the center of the world. You don't have live with their actions, they do. Keep on being you and don't change. People always said the reason why I am able to deal with situations is because I'm stubborn.

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5. From reading your work thus far I have to say you have helped me overcome my own bullies and demons. Why? Because you are fierce. You are unstoppable. You are a role model for the next generation. People may not know it yet but you have just begun and every single person who has treated you poorly will one day soon enough be showed that you are not only a force to be reckoned with, but a leader at heart. A rebel with a fabulous cause! Your words have helped and your voice is being heard!

Awe! Thanks so much. That means the world to me. I am so glad I was able to help and to keep helping! And I humbly have to agree with you about people who have treated me poorly will soon realize if they haven't. Keep on being fabulous! Xo

I hope you guys enjoyed this weeks Paul's advice on all things life. Those envious bullies are just your paparazzi trying to catch their next big story. Stand in the center and allow the love to overcome everything and you will soar! I will get the next post out soon! Love you all and thank you for reading!

Love,
Paul


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Ginger Y
9/9/2015 01:30:43 pm

Great inspirational column & advice!!

Speaking of jealousy..Just wanted 2 let u know some jerk wrote u a bad reviewe on good reads

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24775940-who-i-am

Paul Travis
9/9/2015 01:39:26 pm

Lol! Oh boy. He took a lot of time to write that! Thank you for reading! Xo

Paul Travis
9/9/2015 01:41:16 pm

And of course thank you for the continued support!

Missy Colton
9/10/2015 01:47:22 pm

Just had a similar prob to the person from question #4. I'm a 19 y o college student (bucknell) and my bf is 42 yers old. Were in love and get along great; but every time he comes 2 family gatherings, we get bullied by my fam members bc of our age difference. My brothers threaten him with physical violence and my uncle calls him pedephile right to his face. To make matters worse, my stepdad walked in on us while we were, you know. So he bully's my bf, to. It's a shame bc he supports me (sugar daddy!) and we get along so good, plus he has lots of experience w/ women which is good!

Should consider breaking up with him to appease my fam? It really sucks bc we've had lots of fun 2gether if I know what I mean!

Thanks!

Paul Travis
9/10/2015 02:53:42 pm

Awe Hun! I am so sorry to hear that! Sometimes that is what happens. My biggest bully was my father. But he finally came around and he loves my boyfriend. You shouldn't break up with your man especially since you guys are happy together! You have to put your happiness first. I say stay with him and don't allow anyone to ever derail you from love!

-if you need anymore advice I am here to help!

Paul xo

Greg Wilman
9/13/2015 09:29:14 pm

Sweet article! Ever think of writing professionally orcsubmittingnuoue work to an online blog?? What's you're facebook address, I'd like too friend u.

Paul Travis
9/14/2015 05:43:43 am

Awe! Thank you very much for saying that and reading my articles! When my pieces are rejected my Elite Daily you can find them there as for other places I have yet to try other then a couple who rejected them just really busy with getting things finalized to start sending out the first in my novel series to agents and I've been really busy with writing the second! But yeah, I'll be waiting for the friend request! https://www.facebook.com/paulltraviss thank you, xx

Ewa lewandowski
9/17/2015 11:53:46 am

Halo from opole, Poland! Your work good rely is! See want more in the future!

Paul Travis
9/18/2015 09:26:51 am

Thank you very much!! I am so glad you enjoyed what you read! I have ton more coming! Xo!

Pritty Gurl
9/19/2015 05:40:45 pm

Youre confindence is so fierce and sexy! Wish it could brush off on me :(

My bf and I just started dating and I've already caught him sending racy messages to random shanks from tinder. I'm becoming quite jealous of these girls. Some have very large breasts and are slender...whereas I am somewhat flat chested and overweight. How do I overcome my physical insecurities? What would u do?? Thanks in advance!!

Paul Travis
9/20/2015 09:33:02 am

Girl! I think my nerve is worked for you! Now let me keep this real! If my boyfriend EVER attempted something like that he wouldn't be able to even type again, let alone walk!

1. The way I look at body image is no matter what we are our own worst enemies because back when I was super skinny I use to think I was fat...now since I've aged and grew would still think that until one day I said I'm over being so insecure. I have had it! I removed all people who ever brought me to that level and went to discover my own beauty! Everyday I learn something new about myself and on the days that I am fragile I push it out of my mind by thinking or doing things that make me feel good.

2. I hope you break up with him. Because warning signs that this isn't going to better for you.

Xo-here anytime that you need me!

P.s the qualities you see in me that you wish you had can be found in you just look deep enough to discover them!

Pritty Gurl
9/24/2015 04:46:21 pm

Thanx for the sage advice! If you don't me asking, how old are u? U look so young but your obviously wise beyond ur years. What's your background in?

Paul Travis
9/24/2015 05:03:27 pm

Thanks! I'm 23! Background is in music, writing, acting etc! Thank you very much!

Queenie Baby
9/29/2015 06:23:09 pm

:~)

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