Week 5: Unleashing The Diva Part 1

Divas make the rules, we don't follow them-Paul 

What exactly is a diva? For starters, it isn't someone who feels entitled or only a woman. In fact, Divas are a group of people who not only strive, but achieve being their best self. We are fierce. We glisten like the stars in the nightly sky. Make a loud bang as we sparkle from the bottom to the top.

We are a lioness. Once we set our sights, we succeed at whatever it may be. People know when we enter a room because we radiate. Haters roll their eyes, make a smirk on their face, as to the ones who love us smile, lighten up and we uplift their spirit in a way that is needed.

We work hard on our confidence because we understand what it was once like to have nothing but a blank stare. We prove everyone wrong when told we can't do something. Celebrate with the ones who cheer us on. Inspire those who need some guidance. For the ones who step out of line we make sure to put them back in check, whoever it may be.

​Anyone can be a diva, but it's about how to unleash him, or her in the most uplifting way possible. A diva isn't mean, condescending, power hungry, does not hurt others, but brings out their best selves by doing what they love and helps others find their best selves. Divas make the rules, we don't follow them. 

1. My boss scares me. Not because she is in power, but because they have bully-like tendencies that make me feel less of a person each day. Once you're on her list, that is it. It isn't only the bosses, but some of the people as well. Those kiss asses. The ones who run behind your back, and tell. The gossipers. And, when I speak about this to friends, family, but they all have the same response, "Find a new job." If it were that easy, I would have done it by now. So, I thought it was time to reach out to you, because I know from what I can see, you take giving the T to a whole new level. 

• First, and foremost, consider the source hun. Remember kiss asses are those who have no confidence, and need reassurance from others to make themselves feel ontop of the world. They prance on their tippy toes when their boss says, "good job." You on the other hand already have the inner diva that knows how it's done, or you wouldn't be writing me. Of course, you need to go to your job with a positive attitude, and when in a toxic environment how can that be possible? Unleash the inner diva. Don't hold anything back, let them know how you feel, in a kind way, that's the T. If that doesn't work, then take it to the next level. I don't care who you are, but if you think you can step to me thinking you're someone who is big and bad, then you best believe you're going to get put back in check. I treat people with kindness, respect, and, of course, being the best I can to them. You, I or anyone isn't some peasant who need people walking all over our grand selves. Who do they think they are? Show them what you're made of dear! Work it! 

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2. I had to write to you because I was referred by a friend, and she said you'd be the perfect person to help me overcome self-esteem issues. I know it will take time, but where do I start? Nothing I try ever seems to work. Do you have any advice? 

• I recommend reading some inspiring self-help books. With so many out there take the time to a bookstore and listen to your gut when you look through the shelves. Whichever ones speak to you, buy! Also, change the focus of your perspective. Try to make it a daily habit of writing qualities you love about yourself, no matter how hard you have to think. You, I, and many other people face these challenges on a daily basis, but when I took my focus onto the bigger picture my life changed. You need to find the happiness by searching. Never give up. Even if you have to try to do something you once did, but I recommend, start reading self-help books, and writing things you love about yourself, and life, but include the reason why you do! Sending you all the confidence you need to unleash that inner diva! Xo 

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3. Bro, as weird as this may sound, my girlfriend is obsessed with you. She thinks you're an inspiring man and loves everything about you. She is gorgeous, and she tells me all the time that I am handsome, but to be honest, I don't feel it. I don't feel I deserve someone has genuine as her, but don't get me wrong, I know how blessed I am to have her. I never thought about reaching out to anyone, because, you know, I guess it's a man thing. I changed my mind, and I just need some guidance to get my mindset to where she thinks I am. I don't want to let her down. 

• Awe that is so sweet. And, by reading your question I can tell why she is in love with you. I can tell how sincere you are. I may be right, I may be wrong, but I feel in your past that you may have had a hard time in your childhood or teenage life that triggers those feelings. Let go, and embrace her, because you clearly are doing something right. She fell in love with you, and when you blossom she will only love you even more. The best advice I can give you is to open up to her. Don't be so afraid. She isn't going anywhere! Sending my best blessings to you! I know you'll be just fine.  

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4. I am an inspiring model. You shine on the camera. I get so shy once I have the photographer in front of me. I know I need to get better soon because being a model is my dream. I fit the part, but I lack the camera confidence. I came across your photos, even your average selfies, you know how to work it. You are so fierce that my jaw drops. I found you on Instagram. When you are asked, and get offered a paying slot to do a shoot where do you find your confidence (The Diva) to be so glamours, so elegant, so classy? I'm not just saying this, but you have such a male version of Marilyn Monroe going on in your pictures. 

• Darling, that was so kind of you. Thank you. For me, I am not big on photoshoots, but do I enjoy them? Of course! Who doesn't! You have to let loose, and allow your talent to shine through. No matter what I do, I always try to tell my story. Doing so helps me do my thing. Look at classic photos and top models today practice some of those poses. When the time comes and you have your next shoot, girl you will unleash the diva! 

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5.  I got promoted to first lead in my field. I start very soon. Am I blissful about it, yes, but at the same time I'm scared. How can I calm down the fear inside, and allow everything I have ever wanted career-wise to just be. I need to gain back the patience I had while I set my sights on the position. I'm a very passionate women. I give my heart, soul and mind to everything I do. Similar to you. Reason why I reached out. What words can you use to encourage me to keep my "diva" per say in check? 

• Life is a journey. Especially achieving a goal you had thought about for so long will bring a mixture of excitement, fear, and blissfulness. You earned your spot. Remember, you worked your way to the top, and that is being a diva at her finest. Now, once you settle, you have to keep setting your goals and keep achieving new heights. Write a letter to yourself by giving thanks for this journey you have already embarked on. Kind of an acceptance speech. Don't think so hard, just let the words flow, and in that letter those words of encouragement will be there! Congratulations! Your diva defiantly has been unleashed!   

As I stated before this will be series of parts because I am in love with the concept I have come up with, and Madea, that's right, the one, and only, will be here for the journey. In these next few blog posts, I will help everyone who needs a bit of confidence, some guidance, and even just a good read. Unleashing The Diva is all about you, and allowing your best attributes to shine. Thanks so much for all the love!

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