Week Two: Stand Up For Yourself So You Can Be Happy

No person or power in the outside world can compare to the power you have within you. Seek the power within, as it knows the perfect way for you. - Rhonda Byrne 

An old saying goes, "Take the high road." I wondered if I took the high road will mistreatment return? The answer is easy, yes! There comes a time and a place when one must let the other know how it is. Doing so will remove that person from your mind and allow you to carry on because deep down a majority of people take that high road but ends up on the same road where they were hurt. Break the cycle. You don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone. So what do you do? You stand up for yourself, then move on.    

*Please, if you haven't, take the time to read the disclaimer.

1. Since being in my relationship my weight just seems to keep piling on! It is so devastating, but it is the happiest I have ever been. Some people keep calling me fat! I don't want to allow this to turn that around on me. Do you have words of encouragement, or even some advice to how I can maintain my confidence during this time?

• Let's play a multiple choice game...there is a salad next to a cupcake, what would Paul choose? Cupcake here I come. I have a major sweet tooth, and since being in my relationship I have gained a few extra pounds as well. IT is a lot to take in at first, and like yourself it is the happiest I have ever been. I use to go to the gym around seven days a week, but now I'm lucky if I find the mindset to go every 7 weeks. Every time I try the thought works my nerve, because I say who I am going for? Me? Or them? I recently started walking and watching what I am eating. Yes, we may have gained a few pounds but the worse of it is in our heads. If you are happy, embrace yourself because in reality when it is time for you to workout you will do it. Start by doing a tiny bit of walking for at least 15 minutes every other day and build yourself up. Even a little bit of movement will make you feel better. You live once: enjoy yourself and eat that cupcake. You earned it, and curves or no, walk your runway doing you. Don't listen to what anyone has to say.  
  

2. At my job there is a manager, who isn't my boss that seriously has something shoved up her you know what. I am constantly getting yelled at for little things human beings do (She also does what I get yelled at for), receiving her dirty looks as if I am a prisoner trying to break free and then she carries on smiling as if nothing happened. Also, so does everyone else! I know I have to bite my tongue, to a point, but what should I do? How can I remove that negativity? 

•  That would drive me insane. I wouldn't be able to bite my tongue, so I am applauding you. See bosses have a funny way of doing their job. They have hot and cold spots. When their hot spots are touched they can turn into vindictive people who are ruthless in every way. Bosses like yours think they are celebrities because they love to have their you know what kissed, so she probably has a lot of those, and by this question I can see you're not an ass kisser-either am I. Her reality is people only like her because they need too. The downfall is it puts a radar on yourself. You're an easy target. I am sure guidelines and rules are in place while you are on the floor, and being humans we tend to break them. Try talking to her, and if that doesn't work, what I would do is give her a piece of your mind. If she fires you, document everything and take her ass to court. You have just as much power as she does, if not, even more. You go to work and should not be feeling on edge all day it is so unhealthy for your mind. The higher you are the harder you will fall if you treat others with negative energy.  
  

3. I am finally getting everything I have ever dreamed. The perfect job, girlfriend, and so on. My problem is I am ignored by so many people now. People I once knew, or were close too, or even friends with. They are being rude and mean. How can I not allow this to bother me?  

• Been there, done that! I think at times it is hard for someone to admit that people are jealous of them. They're envious of you! They want what you have so instead of being happy for you they are stuck in their own pity of bitterness. They don't want to see you succeed, just because. Keep doing what you are doing, clearly it is working out for you. The best way to go out about this is looking for the good by writing down a list of your friends, how much they love and support you and you'll see how fast those other people fade. Keep proving them wrong by being the best you can. That's what I always do. 

4. I am tired of hearing people complain about the way I am. It's like blah, blah, blah, blah. That's all I hear. So, how do I get these people to stop? 

• Their behavior is tired. It's time they put it rest. If you are a good person at heart, and are doing good things, you are who you are and can't be changed. AMEN! Good for you. Keep standing up for yourself by just being you. Turn your focus away from them, and instead of trying to fight them off just walk in a different direction. On the other side if they are trying to help you and you just don't want to hear it, open your ears it may help you-that's only if! Stay strong, stay proud and stay who you are if you are coming from a place in your heart. After so many years I learned to tune people out.  

5. I'm trying really, really hard to get my point across to people. They look at me like I have a million heads. They don't want to hear the truth. If they do listen, they don't at the same time. I am tired of hearing my friends complain about how horrible their life is, or these little petty problems because I am going to say the same thing I said 3 weeks ago. Lately all I do is nod and pretend to listen. What would you do? 

• It is a great thing that you are so concerned with your friends well being. There is a sad part about trying to help people and that is they may, or may not take your advice, but don't stop giving it!  Also, don't keep repeating yourself. I'm the same way, it's like you mean what you said the first time and that is how it is. It's like why are you even telling me if your just going to keep letting it happen? Do something about it! I care about my friends and if they don't listen to me after a few times I just nod. Sometimes you just have to let go and allow them to learn it on their own. If they don't, they will eventually.  
  

I hope you guys enjoyed this weeks advice post, and the Nene Leaks pictures taken from the web. Be sure to live in love always and try your best to be the best you can. Each second is an opportunity to turn your life around, or change a situation you're going through. Until next time, smile and be fabulous! 
-Paul xx  

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