Paul's Advice On All Things Life

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It was brought to my attention from multiple fans that they wish they had someone like me in their life to help guide them through. I was beyond grateful for those kind words that I had a meeting with my team and came up with an idea. We did a pilot for Paul's Advice On All Things Life. Fans responded with so much support that it brought us here to my first post. I have picked five issues, stepping stones, dilemmas, dramas or life crisis that fans sent via email and answered their questions. Every Monday I will have 5 new questions with twists, turns and advice. Are you ready? Lets get started. 

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before we do please take a moment to read the disclaimer stating I am in no way responsible for any adverse effects and this is informational only. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for the support and taking the time to join my new blog project! :Terms & Conditions:     

Well, my fabulous readers! Next week I have some more exciting questions to answer. I hope you enjoy, and come back next Monday! May you all be blessed with love and joy! Thank you. 

-Paul xx 

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1. I saw you featured on a fashion blog and you gave an interview about how you pick your style. I want some advice on how to pick the perfect clothes while I shop. It takes me hours and I honestly hate to shop, what do you suggest? 
   

• If it's expensive it fits...totally joking. I consider clothes like a doorway to your life. That being said be sure to pick what you love. Test the waters and try a few things out by being creative. When I walk into a store I JUST know that it is perfect for me. I do a quick glance and what catches my attention I head to pick it up. After, I do another walk around before I try it on. I usually walk out with one of the five items I pick and at times I put it away by asking myself do I really feel like this is it? It is a process to build your signature wardrobe and takes time. Start small, then work your way up! Don't be afraid to recycle your outfits by mixing them with other things. 

  2. I come from a small town full of bible huggers (Christians) and I am gay. I have a group of gay guys that I hangout with everyday, but it's so annoying to hear what they have to say about us daily...how can I remove that negativity? 

• Not all of them are bible huggers. They just have a way of passion that comes off mean and it shouldn't be directed to you, but you said your answer in the first few words, small. They are small minded individuals who keep their noses stuck in the bible without really allowing God into their lives. Notice how their answer is, "It's in the bible. It's in the bible." They live in fear. I mean no disrespect to their opinions. God hates no one, and remember he didn't write the bible. Do I believe in the bible? Someone of it, yes, until I was told being gay was a CHOICE. My Aunt is a Catechist in the Catholic Church and has been for the past 15 years who continues her education yearly. I discussed issues such as this with her-it is clearly false what they say about us. We won't being going to hell, God doesn't hate us and we are who we are because of him. I always knew I had an attraction to men. If you take the time to listen to God you will see for yourself that life is meant to be lived by being who you are. The best way to remove that negativity is by finding your own personal connection with God. I promise you that you will live a better fulfilling life by going on your own spiritual journey. Start by reading books on Gratitude. I highly recommend The Secret.    

 
3. I am having a difficult time scoring my perfect job. I went to three different interviews and nothing feels right, or I don't get it. How did you know what was perfect for you? What can I do better? 

• You have to awaken that inner diva! When the going gets tough, clearly you're in the wrong place and if at first you don't succeed complain loudly until they give it to you...again, I'm totally joking. (Sort of) I wrote something in my poetry book, "Rejection is simply redirection to the greatness awaiting you." It takes time because right now you are learning the value of gratitude because when you find that career you will feel so good about it that you will do everything you can to the best of your abilities to climb the ladder of success in that company. You are doing the best you can, just don't give up! You got this! 

 4. I was told by several men that I am so high maintenance. What can I do to change that about myself? I keep scaring men away. I read in your poetry book that you were also called that. Can you help? 

• Let them run. They aren't brave enough to handle that freaky side you have within. I had my fair share of runways, people who kept coming back and then I finally found the one. I had one of them tell that the only reason why they ran was because they respected me. Hang in there because once you find your prince you will look back and laugh it off! You will also know. I knew Jon was mine at 19. It took us two years to actually meet, but once we did everything made sense. 

 5. I think I am in love. How did you know your boyfriend was the one?

• I just knew. I have a very good intuition, so listen to your gut! It is that old saying, it just happens. Enjoy this feeling and run with it! Best wishes and much love! Excited for your new journey.