5 Steps To A Healthier Self-Talk
After everything I’ve been through in the last couple of years, I’ve come to a place where I’ve finally taken control of my self-talk and begun removing narratives that were placed from people on how I was made to feel, perceived as, their attitudes toward who I am, what I do and everything else that stems from those experiences. Those people made me feel, and those emotions I felt weren’t positive, so my subconscious mind, in some odd way, recorded those feelings which would turn into thoughts I would speak to myself about myself. For so long I’ve felt in a sense deep down I had to prove something to make myself feel better. I never really cared much about how people would associate their thoughts when it came to me yet still those words found their home inside me. It led to much anxiety that brought so much pressure where it would always hold me back and when I didn’t hold back that anxiety would make the experience unpleasant. Girl, I don’t have time for that anymore—like I’m done and done with the people who try to make it come back with their nonsense—and I knew something needed to be done to make space for my authentic voice so I can live my happiest life doing what I love to do. Here are 5 steps I’m taking for a healthier self-talk and if you want to improve your inner monologue, I hope this helps.
It’s your thoughts that shape you and your life so make sure it’s actually you talking not the noise from the people behind the flashing cameras. *Muah*
As the seasons' change and the adventures of life unfold we never know what’s awaiting us around the corner. It is up to us to try and make the best of what it is exactly. As I write this the birds are singing and beginning their day as I am doing the same. Before we begin I would like to say I hope all of you are staying safe both mentally, spiritually, and physically during today's climate. It has been over a year since I wrote a post on here—for a good reason of course. I wanted to fill you all in on everything while hoping to give a message of hope during such times. If interested just keep on reading.
The posts that will be coming out will be different from what most are used to reading, some will stay in the same vein but I am really going to be digging deeper and sharing more insights on things that I never have shared before about my life, lessons and advice—I might even begin to share short fictional stories again plus poems. I am already an honest, mouthy and sassy person who doesn’t hold back in general. This new season coming out in 2021 is going to be no different.
I have my hands in many different projects: novel series, memoir, music, my column, social media and blogging—there are other things I am brainstorming but let’s stay focused on what’s important…my writing. As I sat in front of this blank document, well, let me rephrase, as I was laying in bed thinking of what to write my ideas began to flow so now I’m sitting in front of this document writing as I type. It’s almost midnight which means it’s going to be a long night for me. I learned my lesson on not to promise a set of posts because I assumed I would have them all written but I don’t. Please forgive me…ha-ha! My head is in so many different directions that it’s time for me to tie down and focus on my BOOKS but part of me can’t abandon my blog…like ever! Continue reading to see what I am opening up about in this post with tips on how to help when you find yourself dealing with negative people.
Never allow others to dim your sparkle. Regardless of who they are, or in better words, who they think they are-Paul Travis
Just Because You Don't Post It on Social Media Doesn't Mean It Didn't Happen and Here's Why
We live in a digital age and I vibe with that! By the looks of it many others do too. Social media has become a big part of our life no matter what generation you are from—and a lot of people even make money because of it. Growing up in the social media age came with its pros and cons. The older I get the less I care for it yet can’t stop being part of it. In this blog post, the first to start my new blogging season, I am sharing my thoughts on social media from past to present and sharing behind the scenes of posts I upload to the world.
I've had so many people comment on my life because I don't share photos of me being outside, having fun with my friends, boyfriend or traveling like I do from a mirror-selfie, a selfie or a photo shoot but the reality is, I do a lot more than I share on social media. I don't need to prove myself or get validation from anyone plus my head isn't up my phones ass.
I've announced a new blogging season slated for a September release that will include 5 blog posts. In this post I've rounded up all the previous ones that were released prior. A lot has changed since I released these. It's been sometime since I took the time to really focus on my blog giving everything that was going on but I feel happy to be back. Look forward to you guys reading everything that is coming and connecting with each of you in a brand new way.
My life has truly been chaotic in a good and bad way since we last had a serious conversation with one another in August 2018 even if it may not seem it. For starters I'll definitely be giving a behind the scenes look of this highlight reel we call social media...-Paul, for the upcoming blogging season starting September 2019.
Life is full of celebrations. From holidays to even the tiny things such as a friendly gathering. The task at hand in the very beginning could be daunting—having so much to do yet no time is one example of thoughts that may occur. In this post I rounded-up some of my favorite essentials to having a stress-free time from beginning to end of planning or helping plan in your next great event.
Life is meant to be celebrated so why not do it with others around!
This week something was brought to my attention: Toxic Masculinity. After been giving an unexpected piece to work on for the magazine I write with. I began reading about it which lead to me having a coming to Jesus moment. This mindset in people has been the root to all the pain, suffering and self-esteem issues I’ve ever faced in my life from childhood bullies all the way to where I am currently by both men and women. Here is what I currently have to say about it because I’m just getting started.
I’ve been looked upon as weak and in an unfavorable light because of the way I am by both “toxic masculine” men and “toxic masculine” women who inherently share the same mentality even if they don’t see it or understand that they do. I now am aware of the enemy for my fight in society and because of that there’s a new bitch in town…me. – Paul
I remember when I first began about 6 years ago, I was on this non-stop train of promoting myself and sharing content—photo shoots, quotes, poetry, articles, graphics, social media, music and of course posts. I haven’t been active as much on my blog or social media in general for a lot of reasons. Nothing dramatic. I took some time to myself away from my career. Also, I’ve been enjoying some peace and quiet…please, does that even exist? If so give me the directions. Ha-ha! I wanted to make this post today to kick off the new season of my blog. I'm sharing what’s currently going on and what’s up ahead for years to come!
No matter what stage of life I'm in I always feel people try to mold me into something I'm not. Or make me out to be someone I'm not. Not anymore. I'm letting go, sharing myself in ways I've never done and whatever adventures await I'm ready for it, are you?! - Paul
What's up guys?! I hope you're all doing amazing. I miss you. If you've been following me you know I've spent the last two years working on my weight and hair. You know figuring out what made me happy and feeling even more confident when I enter a room, pose for a photo or a selfie. This summer I was able to reach my summer goal weight! I'm 5 pounds shy of my major goal of 155.
Current Events And Agenda
So...hi everyone! It’s been a minute since I’ve officially posted on my blog. Been busy working on stuff and allowing inspiration to take its course. I have a batch of new blog posts coming this summer season as some of you may have seen if you follow me on the social media. I decided to write a post filling everyone in on what’s currently happening in my world and what’s on the agenda.
In my world there’s never a dull moment. It’s always an adventure even if I don’t want it to be.
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